A friend was talking to me tonight about the expectations she struggled with. Her family and friends at the church she was attending expected her to fit a certain mold — that of a good daughter who studied hard, didn’t take drugs, didn’t smoke, didn’t drink or party, and who was kind to other people.
Then there was the other side of her — who wanted to do those things. To rebel, perhaps to prove that she didn’t have to fit into that mold if she didn’t want to fit into it. A mold that she was so desperately tired of trying to fit into.
She was tired of feeling like a square peg in a round hole.
But in escaping that hold, she was in danger of finding yet another mold that she didn’t fit into — a mold that would prove unhealthy. After all, playing the rebel is only fun until you find yourself waking up in a hospital after wrapping your car around a tree.
Her feelings echoed my own, at the worse of times. Who hasn’t felt, at some point, that they were trying to be someone they couldn’t ever be?
Maybe this is the right thing to do, in any case. Don’t think about what everyone expects you to do. You’ll run into contradictions. You won’t be able to please everybody.
Think, instead, about the right thing to do. And do it.
Maybe it’ll be easier than you think it is.